The death of a loved one is one of life’s most difficult experiences. If you’re here because you’ve lost someone you care about to suicide, we’d like to acknowledge your loss and the emotions you may be feeling.
Suicide loss is a traumatic event. The grief that comes with it may differ from other forms of grief in its intensity and duration. Feelings of guilt may occur along with ‘why’ questions. It’s normal to wish we could have done more to prevent a suicide.
It’s important to know, a suicide death is no-one’s fault. Suicide is never the result of one thing only. Suicide is complex, an outcome influenced by many factors coming together at one time.
Requirements around physical distancing and lockdown mean the traditions we associate with public funerals and tangihanga have paused. Funerals and tangi can go ahead under Alert Level 2 but are restricted to no more than 100 people. The Ministry of Health says when holding a gathering, play it safe - maintain hygiene standards and meet existing record-keeping requirements for contact tracing.
You may choose to delay some of the ways you would like to farewell the person who has died until the COVID-19 pandemic is over.
We cannot delay grief however and having a service or activities and rituals to engage in within the first few weeks of a death can help with adapting to loss.
For more information please see the Funeral Directors Association of New Zealand website.
Free call or text 1737 anytime to talk to a trained counsellor.
Lifeline – 0800 543 354 or free text 4357 (HELP)
Youthline – 0800 376 633 or free text 234
Samaritans – 0800 726 666
Please see the Mental Health Foundation website for more helplines