Season 2 of 13 Reasons Why was released at 7.01pm on Friday 18 May. It is rated RP18: Contains rape, suicide themes, drug use, and bullying. This discussion guide was created by the Office of Film and Literature Classification and the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand. This guide comes with a SPOILER ALERT.


(NOTE: PARENTS NEED TO KNOW: There is a graphic and brutal anal rape scene of a male character with a mop handle in Episode 13.)

You can talk to young people about the show – here’s how

Young people know the issues in 13 Reasons why are also issues in Aotearoa. They’re already talking with each other about many of the themes in 13 Reasons Why, including suicide, rape, drug use and bullying. It’s important for adults to join those conversations to provide guidance and support if our young people need it. 

Although it can feel hard to talk about the tough stuff, it’s important that we can all have safe, open, honest and compassionate kōrero about these difficult issues so our rangatahi feel heard, supported and understood. 

You might find these issues difficult to talk about, depending on your own experiences or beliefs, but listening without judgement is really important. See our top tips for more information.

General discussion questions:

  • I know season 2 of 13 Reasons Why is out and it deals with some really big issues. Have you seen it?
  • What did you think of the show? What did you like? What didn’t you like?
  • How did you feel when you were watching the show? How do you feel now?
  • Are you okay after seeing the show?
  • I know some people who watched the show found it really distressing. Did you? Can you understand why some people might? 
  • Are those issues you and your friends are facing?
  • Do you need any support with these issues?
  • Do you know what support you can get from your school?
  • What support does your school have in place for people who are bullied? What support do you think people who are bullied should get? 
  • Who would you talk to if you were going through a tough time? Can we name some people together you could kōrero with? It’s okay if it’s not me!
  • How do you and your friends support each other through difficult times?
  • In the show, Hannah came back and talked to Clay. She encouraged him to get revenge on Bryce so he couldn’t hurt anyone else. What did you think about that? Do you think it was a good idea for the producers to bring her back? 
  • Do you think girls are treated differently to guys when they start having sex? Why do you think this is? What would you like to see change? Chloe and Bryce’s relationship in the show was really troubling. What do you think a healthy relationship is? What does an unhealthy relationship look like? 
  • Most of the adults in the show don’t seem to understand the issues the kids in the show are facing. Is that your experience? Is there something I could understand better? 
  • There’s a lot of talk in the show about the ‘right kind of victim’. What do you think this means? Does someone have to be faultless to be a real victim?